I'm assuming everyone knows what a crush is- if you Squishes asexual reproduction familiar with the term 'squish'- it's basically a non-romantic crush.
The term was coined Here. But I've always had a nasty time figuring out whehter what I'm feeling is a squish, and I just want to be friends, or a crush, and I want to be romantically involved with the person. Does anyone have any advice on figuring that out? For me, I usually can tell by the things I imagine doing with the person - like what I want to happen.
So, to take a couple celebrities to give you an example, I have a crush on Robert Pattinson 'cause I imagine myself kissing him or going on a date, whereas I have a HUGE squish on Anton Yelchin and I imagine myself talking to him, hanging out, having a laugh Squishes asexual reproduction etc. These are in a different category for me though because since they're celebrities I'm never realistically gonna meet them, but it would be hard to give you examples from my real life!
Hmm, I think that's part of my problem. I don't imagine myself doing anything iwth them- just that I want to spend more time iwth them, look forward to Squishes asexual reproduction to them, etc. I suppose I should just assume it's a squish until I'm proved wrong- tha tmight make things easier.
I just call everything a crush, but anyway, mine are often kinda vague to begin with. I might have some ideas of what I'd want to do with the person, but that often comes later if some type of relationship develops.
I have exactly the same issue right now. For the moment, I'm calling it a squish. If anything changes, I might change my mind. Also, I've had plenty of squishes before but I've never had a crush, so I think it's fairly safe for me to assume it's a squish!
I think I'll be able to turn mine into something as well. They seem to enjoy talking to me as well, which is Squishes asexual reproduction helpful. The biggest thing will be getting closer while still respecting boundaries. She was my high "Squishes asexual reproduction" teacher and although I've been visiting the high school to see her, the summer's coming up and Squishes asexual reproduction don't know how I'm going to swing that one.
Wow, that does sound difficult. I've never been a friend with an old
Squishes asexual reproduction, it seems like k it'd be hard to deal with the dynamic and also being wary of people misinterpreting things. Oh is that what they're called? Might take a while for me to get used to, it's kind of a weird word lol. In my mind I've just been referring to them as aromantic crushes. For me, it's pretty clear it's purely non-romantic. I just think they're cool to hang around, I enjoy the conversations we have even though they're not very frequent and are quite short whenever they do occur since I don't see the person around campus muchand I find what they have to say really interesting.
But I know it's just a I-wanna-be-your-friend thing, because if I imagine being with them in a romantic situation, my brain instantly just goes No. Don't worry mate, they'd probably be thinking the same about you too. I just imagine something intimate I would love to do with someone I am in love with, and imagine if it would feel natural to do it with the person I spent years thinking I had crushes, but after I had a short relationship, I realized that I was aromantic and the "crushes" I'd ever had were actually squishes I think I have a crush on HaqqMasta.
Currently having a squish I'm sure of it on one girl in my school. She is very dear to me, and I absolutely love talking to her, because she understands. Not wanting a relationship with her, I know it wouldn't work.
Given that crushes have never been well-defined to begin with, this is basically a distinction without a difference. I myself have a major squish on someone that I mistook for a crush I didn't say anything but it felt So I'd say assuming it's a squish until proven otherwise can't hurt, right? I have kind of a squish on someone who's actually a pretty good friend of mine already. Except I get all flustered around him, and hope that I don't come across as an idiot, worry vaguely about how be perceives me, etc.
Considering I'm a homoromantic asexual, this is, to say the least, kind of odd for me. I have a girl I'm crushing on very, very much.